We recently caught up with Katie a professional event & wedding planner with The Family Tie Project. After having a super smooth experience working together on a farm style wedding at the Long Hill Farm in Callicoon New York we had to know what her thought process was behind planning a wedding with her couples. Katie was gracious enough to share 5 tips that will help make wedding planning with your spouse less stressful.
#1- COMMUNICATION IS KEY
Communicate with your partner about your wedding dreams. Talk about what you both want, how you envision the day, what’s important to starting off your married life together. Be open about budget, who is paying for what, and be realistic of what you want to spend. Start discussing who you would like to be there throughout your wedding celebrations so you can begin to shape the big day!
#2-DON'T JUMP TO CONCLUSIONS
It’s easy to start getting ahead of yourself when planning. When you become emotionally attached to decisions things can get off track. This is where a planner really shines as they have experience with what works and what doesn’t.
For those DIY planners out there, try to find a friend who can be blunt with you. You need honest feedback and someone with an outside point-of-view with some of the decisions
(there are a lot)
#3-DIVIDE AND CONQUER
Most often one is more into the planning than the other. If you are both into it, even better! Whatever the case, dividing the decision making will help you bond through the experience. Make it fun, memorable, and something you both really want! Wedding planning comes with lots of decisions so whether you hire a professional or you do it yourself, big or small, you will still have to make the final call. Things will begin to escalate so this is very important, especially since every day life is still happening around you.
The decisions, deadlines, and deposits are due so things start getting a little bit stressful. It’s important to take a break, do something non wedding related with your spouse. Maybe even make a rule not to mention it during this hiatus! It will help refresh your thoughts and tackle the to-do list after a few days off.
#5-IT’S TIME TO CELEBRATE
Ok you’ve finalized most of the wedding checklist but you need to start spending time with aunts, uncles, and cousins who begin to arrive but you’re getting bombarded by emails and phone calls from vendors.
A day of coordinator is a huge savor when getting to this point in planning. They will handle the last minute changes, ensure all vendors know when & where to arrive, go over the final plans, and coordinate the ceremony rehearsal so everyone knows what to do.
You really don’t want to miss that shot of your Grandma who’s only there for a short while and forgot to tell the photographer, lose the topper of your cake that you spent hundreds of dollars on shipping in from Etsy, or
never even taste the desserts you spent hours on picking. Most importantly, you need to have fun, not worry, and enjoy your day!
For more on The Family Tie Project visit their website at www.thefamilytieproject.com